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Kink is a term that refers to non-conventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies that involve a certain power dynamic. Kink derives from the idea of a "bend" or a "twist" in one's sexual behaviour, as opposed to "straight" or "vanilla" sexual norms. In a world...

What are Schemas? Schemas are maladaptive thoughts that generally develop in childhood. For example, fear of abandonment, fear of trusting people, feeling entitled to things, feeling like a failure or defective, etc. As we adopt them as 'truths', once we become...

I have a PhD in that stuff, and yet, it's not until I really started exploring couples' experiences in the lifestyle that I understood for myself that it's much more complicated than meets the eye. There's an ending variety of research on the pros and cons of entering...

For a very long time, I wouldn't ask clients (individuals or couples) to commit to any frequency for their sessions as I was mindful of issues such as work, kids, or finances. However, realistically, without a regular weekly or fortnightly commitment, therapy just...

As many of you may know, I have undertaken intensive training in EMDR in the last year. As a couple therapist, it made sense to me to see how this incredible therapy could be used and added to the work I'm already doing as a relationship and sex therapist. In light of...

As you know, I am a great advocate of bedroom fun. Whether with your spouse, sexual partners or by yourself, the incredible things you will find at "Ignight me" are bound to hit the spot, but before I tell you more about them, let me take you down memory lane....

Before we start... As discussed in my previous blog about affairs, yes there is always hope, however there are factors that make it more or less difficult to recover. For example; How personal was the affair (a friend/relative, the parent of a kid at school, or having...

Affair recovery is a subject I'm quite familiar with considering the amount of couples who come and see me to attempt recovery after a betrayal in their relationship. I'm not going to lie, it is a difficult topic, almost always very painful for the person on the...

Short answer (and at the risk of being unpopular) .... YES, but before you judge me and my answer, hear me out. For those who have seen me in counselling, you would know that I always ask new clients a couple of questions. These are; What happened for you to make...

Welcome to this week's blog on families, and the power they have to be amazing or amazingly difficult in one's life! I'm grateful for the people I spoke while writing this blog and their insights into their own experiences. Navigating both my personal and my...

Welcome to a new blog where I will talk about what adult clubs are, what to expect, and a little about my thoughts so far. Moving forward in the kink series, I will leave reviews of my visits for local adult clubs as my partner and I visit them (although in my...

Happy new week! let's jump straight unto this week's topic: Exhibitionism! A cousin of last week's topic (Voyeurism if you haven't checked the blog out already). What is Exhibitionism? Here is a simple definition, however this one is not a bad one from...

Happy Monday everyone! Considering how common kink comes up in my conversations, I've decided I will run a series of blogs on various kink/fetishes/play that may be of interest to you and/or your partner. Today, we will talk about something that isn’t often discussed...

This month, I've published a few articles for women, particularly for women with a history of abuse and/or trauma. Today's article is an important one following up these blogs, but before you read any further, I'd like to invite you to read them first as they will put...

*** Trigger warning. This is an emotional piece which I wont apologise for. If this can help any girls and women out there, I'll write 1000 more like this. Also, please note that it is NOT my intention to men bash or assume that all men behave this way. In actual...