Welcome to my blog

As a kink positive therapist, I make no judgement on what path couples choose to take in their relationship. There is no right and wrong and those decisions are often based on a bunch of factors that change over the course of life. However, I do have an issue with a...

Podcast Series... The guide to life as a couple This excerpt from Dr. Stephanie Azri’s book, "The Real Guide to Life as a Couple," focuses on common relationship issues and offers strategies for couples to overcome them. The author, a social worker, emphasizes the...

Podcast Series... The guide to life as a couple This podcast summarises a chapter on intimacy and sex from a book about relationships, written by Dr. Stephanie Azri. The chapter focuses on building and maintaining a strong intimate connection between partners,...

Podcast Series... The guide to life as a couple Dr. Stephanie Azri's book excerpt focuses on the importance of maintaining a healthy and vibrant relationship by continuing to date throughout a relationship's lifespan. The excerpt emphasizes the shift from the initial...

Podcast Series... The guide to life as a couple This excerpt from a self-help book examines the impact of modern life, particularly social media, on romantic relationships. The author, Dr. Stephanie Azri, argues that while social media offers unique opportunities for...

Podcast Series... The guide to life as a couple This podcast summarizes Chapter 5 of "The Real Guide to Life as a Couple," by Dr. Stephanie Azri, which focuses on the complexities of integrating family and friends into a romantic relationship. The chapter provides...

Podcast Series... The guide to life as a couple This podcast discussed chapter 3 of a self-help guide for couples focuses on the importance of effective communication and negotiation skills in romantic relationships. The author emphasizes the need for couples to learn...

Podcast Series... The guide to life as a couple This podcast introduces a relationship guide written by Dr. Stephanie Azri, focusing on communication skills for couples. Dr. Azri argues that effective communication is essential for a happy and successful relationship,...

Kink is a term that refers to non-conventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies that involve a certain power dynamic. Kink derives from the idea of a "bend" or a "twist" in one's sexual behaviour, as opposed to "straight" or "vanilla" sexual norms. In a world...

What are Schemas? Schemas are maladaptive thoughts that generally develop in childhood. For example, fear of abandonment, fear of trusting people, feeling entitled to things, feeling like a failure or defective, etc. As we adopt them as 'truths', once we become...

I have a PhD in that stuff, and yet, it's not until I really started exploring couples' experiences in the lifestyle that I understood for myself that it's much more complicated than meets the eye. There's an ending variety of research on the pros and cons of entering...

For a very long time, I wouldn't ask clients (individuals or couples) to commit to any frequency for their sessions as I was mindful of issues such as work, kids, or finances. However, realistically, without a regular weekly or fortnightly commitment, therapy just...

As many of you may know, I have undertaken intensive training in EMDR in the last year. As a couple therapist, it made sense to me to see how this incredible therapy could be used and added to the work I'm already doing as a relationship and sex therapist. In light of...

As you know, I am a great advocate of bedroom fun. Whether with your spouse, sexual partners or by yourself, the incredible things you will find at "Ignight me" are bound to hit the spot, but before I tell you more about them, let me take you down memory lane....

Before we start... As discussed in my previous blog about affairs, yes there is always hope, however there are factors that make it more or less difficult to recover. For example; How personal was the affair (a friend/relative, the parent of a kid at school, or having...

Affair recovery is a subject I'm quite familiar with considering the amount of couples who come and see me to attempt recovery after a betrayal in their relationship. I'm not going to lie, it is a difficult topic, almost always very painful for the person on the...

Short answer (and at the risk of being unpopular) .... YES, but before you judge me and my answer, hear me out. For those who have seen me in counselling, you would know that I always ask new clients a couple of questions. These are; What happened for you to make...

Welcome to this week's blog on families, and the power they have to be amazing or amazingly difficult in one's life! I'm grateful for the people I spoke while writing this blog and their insights into their own experiences. Navigating both my personal and my...

Welcome to a new blog where I will talk about what adult clubs are, what to expect, and a little about my thoughts so far. Moving forward in the kink series, I will leave reviews of my visits for local adult clubs as my partner and I visit them (although in my...